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A Random Spot, Dear Love, To flatter them or not… The magnificent storyteller and spiritual master, Anthony De Mello, would enrapture his audience with parables of Jesus, of Buddha, or saints and sinners, of people of all walks of life… Just as you felt comfortable with his words, he would look you in the eyes, take a breath and say, “You know, you are an ass, I am an ass, we are all assess. No, really we are all asses”. And then he would laugh. I think that was one of his favorite moments in his talks. He was speaking about the way we humans think we know what we are doing. We believe we are in control. We think we are awake and aware, but we aren’t. A few days ago at the gelado shop called Fini, here in Sesimbra, I met up with a friend to talk about life. He kept mentioning how he was more of a stick man, then a carrot man. You know the saying people are motivated either by the carrot or the stick, the stick being the tool that the rider or master of the donkey uses to whack the ass of the donkey. Now, my friend mentioned this three or four times, about having some fetish for getting whipped, for being more of a stick man, unfortunately. The carrot or the stick, the stick or the carrot, pain or pleasure… Well, I was thinking about this, and he wasn’t wrong in what he was saying as he knows himself plenty well. And there was one thing he certainly was correct about, we are all asses to some extent, more or less. And even though I was asking another question, pointing in another direction, that way of seeing the world as either a carrot or stick way of being, was the only option available, but… Why not hold a different perspective? Why not try on a shift in experiencing oneself? Why not ask, if I am an ass can’t I at least be a free ass without an owner whipping me with a stick or torturing me with a carrot that I can never attain? I know this isn’t an easy option to hold upon our mind. Most will argue that we are always motivated by pleasure or pain. Yes we often are. So what… In truth the carrot and the stick are not representative of pleasure, only the illusion of a future pleasure because it is always held out just enough in front of you that you think you just might reach it, but you never do, and the stick is only made to drive you forward into another whipping, plenty of pain. So, if one is an ass, be an ass, but be a free ass… Wander in the fields. Eat of its abundance. Frolic upon your follies and then drop the stick from the hand that is your whip. God if you only knew how much of an ass I am, how screwy and wonderful, and turned about I become from time to time... Yet, the fields I eat from are wonderfully divine, even when I am not. And I am not, quite often. Stay sexy, stay beautiful, stay as you wish for you are it, p.s. Would you like to take on the creation of your year, deep diving for a three hour session, of pure imagination and play, while creating your year ahead… Enlivening your being with possibility and the power of a vision so strong, it turns you on every time you catch its glimpse. This isn’t for everyone, as most have their lives going as they wish it to be. But for the adventurous seeker, who seeks greater knowing and wants to get more life out of life. You can join me for a one time main session and two micro sessions, one on one, you and me, looking at who you are being, what you want, what might get in your way from creating it, and what do do when you feel resistance as you go for it, because you will Additionally there are two topics that will amplify our conversation, Being and Becoming, because many people create their future from a place of not liking themselves as they are right now. We will look at that. Second, is what I call the gift. The gift will empower you to understand the freedom that comes from letting other people say yes or no to any of your requests, and thus, the reverse becomes even more powerful for you too, that is more power and freedom to ask others for whatever it is you desire. A lack of vision keeps people feeling stuck.. I imagine, if you join me you will have a few questions and desires of your own that you would like to explore with me as well. Bring those to the conversation. It’s a one time payment of $500, there are no refunds and as you are already familiar with me, you know that I live to serve beauty, truth and awe-mazing… That means I like to enjoy myself so you shall too. Note: this is not about resolutions or empty wishes. It’s about your heart's true desires and the willingness to imagine and allow for you to have what you want. There’s so much more… Reply to this email and walk into a world of pure creation with me... p.p.s. My friend, who moves with wisdom, of his 84 years stopped by the table I sat at this morning. We had spoken over coffee an hour earlier than he continued his walk, and I continued to write. He passed again on his way back, crossing the street from the beachside to the cafe table where I sat writing, standing with the sun at his back and I in his shadow, he said, “Emeric, listen to your soul. Don’t ignore your soul. You must hear it.” He turned and walked away as I mumbled a yes. You know, listening to your soul, your spirit, whatever you might call that voice that is often so faint, and too often ignored, is the most challenging work there is, yet it is the work that matters most. Let me make an ass of faith, so faith can freely make an ass of me, and I will be forever grateful, although I already am. The Life Force... Stay beautiful my beautiful friend. |
Emeric Damian
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